A Friend of mine called me today to tell me she may have Leukemia, that she’d had an on going fever and had been in the hospital for the past week. I was really taken aback by the news, we’re not super close but I really felt for her as she’s had so much going on in her life lately. I told her if she needed me to make dinner, a trip to the store, or just a friend to have a cup of tea with to get her mind off things to give me a call.
My friend and I met in a moms club a few years back, in the beginning the club was great but over time it became catty and very clicky. I eventually left the club so I could find more substantial friendships elsewhere as did my friend. During our conversation she told me something that really annoyed me and showed the character of a few of those women.
My friend wanted to take her kids to Vacation Bible School, however her immune system is next to non existant so she has to wear a surgical mask when she goes out. She was walking up to the church, a few of the moms from the club were standing outside, they didn’t recognize her (or maybe they did?), giving her a dirty look they made the comment “Why’s that mom bringing her kids here if she’s sick?” and something else about her spreading it to their kids. My friend being a lot bigger than I would’ve ignored the comment and took her kids to VBS but the comment stung.
People like this annoy me, they’re so self absorbed that they don’t take a moment to think about what someone else might be going through. I wish I’d been there to tell them why she was wearing the mask and make them slink back into their superficial circle with a huge amount of guilt. I guess the point I wanted to get across in this post is before passing judgement take the time to ask, don’t assume what you don’t know.